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What advice would you give your younger self?

My advice I would give to my younger self.

If I could go back in time, I’d hug my younger self and give her enough advice to empower her to go after what she desires. Life is always a work-in-progress, and I will probably look back in 5 years time and have a new list of advice I would give to my current self, but for now let’s focus on my audience in their teenage years. This is what I would tell my younger me:

1. The mirror is your friend, if you let it be

That person you stare at in the mirror everyday is you. Be kind to you. Flaws are temporary, they don’t define you. As much as it’s easy to stare in the mirror and pick out your flaws, you can use that time to pick out what you love about yourself instead. You see yourself in the mirror and you have goals, work hard for them. The fact that you can dream of it, means you can get there, you just have to put in the work.

2. Take up a form of exercise 

You’ll find that your strongest moments of mental clarity come to you when you’re working out. Not only is working out good for your physical health but for your mental health too. You’ll feel happy about the effort you’re putting in. You know the film, Legally Blonde? Yeah, when Elle Woods said, “Exercise releases endorphins. Endorphins make you happy.” She’s right! They’re important for your health. P.S. the weights section in the gym is not only for men, you can use them too.

3. Read more

Read more, because you’ll thank yourself you did. Read up on feminism, poetry, novels, advice, humour, so many different books to get you prepared because in the future, you read all the time and you’ll love it. Get lost in the book, learn about the storyline and characters, learn from people who are wiser and knowledgeable and note down their advice.

4. You’re not secondary to men 

I know it’s easy to think, ‘is it a man’s world, and we are just living in it’. This is not the case. You’ll meet men and women who will make you feel as you’re doing well, but somehow still not good enough compared to a man. In those moments, remember who you are. Remember, a man didn’t bring you to where you are. You will learn to figure things out on your own at times, and that’s okay. You will power through and showcase that a women can too do it as well, if not better than a man. Never forget how hard you work for what you want. Us women are worthy of being in the places where we fear only men can reach.

5. Time is important 

What do you prioritise? Don’t give your time to just anything or anyone. Time is a beautiful thing and something we need to use wisely. It’s okay to miss out on that event, FOMO (Fear of missing out) doesn’t do any good. Enjoy your life whilst knowing where your prioritises lie.

So, to my readers, enjoy your life! Make sure you prioritise your time to those important things. If I can leave you with one last thing; you’re going to be okay, life gets so much better, you just have to trust God’s timing. If you need help, reach out to someone, remember people aren’t mind readers, but you’ll be surprised at how much they care. You’ve got this.

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